Resurrection Defined

I know that I have taken a hiatus from the blog for a while -

In this Holy time of year - biblically we learn that Jesus resurrected on the third day, thus the celebration of Easter.  Here is my question - what about our own individual resurrections?  One of the definitions of resurrection as told from Dictionary.com as "the rising again from decay or disuse; revival"  The obvious definition is "the rising of the dead".

The way that I am defining resurrection is the rebirth portion of our inner selves.  What I have learned over these past few weeks is that life takes us on trips that we never thought that we would go on.  Some of these trips are awesome, and others are horrible.  What these trips all have in common is that they are usually life altering occurrences.  Where the resurrection comes in is with the ability to move forward and overcome the horrible changes and to bask in the enjoyment of the awesome ones.

In recreating yourself, you have to wake up.  Take off the shades, open your eyes and truly face reality.  It is then and only then where you can have a full rebirth of yourself.  I know it is not easy, you have to plan and take steps and move forward with yourself and deal with things in hopes that soon the storm will pass and that the sun will shine again.  They eventually do, but until that storm passes, remember to dance in the rain and make big splashes in puddles!

I have learned to celebrate during my hardest times - I pop bottles when i get through it.  I dance my way through it - I know at the end that I will still win, and that is the most important thing that we have to remember.  Troubles don't last always.  We can be resurrected.  Whether it be from the passing of a loved one, a break up, or a separation from a place of employment.  Either way - you have to move forward, come to terms and be honest with yourself, and move forward.

Beyonce and her Hypnotic Pelvis

I like Beyonce, I really do.  She is talented, makes good music, and she can dance. She can really dance.
I don't know about anyone else, but I have reverted back to watching that Superbowl halftime show - at least 4 more times.  It usually happens with all of her performances on youtube - and my confused self wondering how she could possibly move that way in stilettos.  I promise you that Zumba's stock just went up about 30% with chicks trying to figure out how to whine that way.  I can't help but to think that Beyonce's provocative, pelvis popping self is put here on this earth to make dudes forget why they are with the women that they are with and with straight women confused about why they cannot stop staring at this particular woman - my lesbian friends have been seen on Instagram thanking Jesus.

Beyonce's performances just tend to be ... disrespectful.  She says that she is going to give you 15 minutes and that is what you are getting.  I personally expected another 10 minutes of show - the half-time show was so hyped up that I actually expected not only Destiny's Child - but Jay Z to make an appearance and possibly for Blue Ivy to make her debut and Moonwalk across the stage or something - I don't know. My first reaction after was ... she's done?  I'll be greedy.

Now back to Destiny's Child.  I don't know what collard greens, cornbread, and what ever injections that have gotten into Miss Kelly Rowland, but she exploded out of that stage and snatched the breath out of America with that body of hers.  Then she stood there like - "deal with this".  Poor Michelle, she didnt do badly, but she isn't built for that life - she looked great nevertheless, but we all know that choreography has never been her strong suit.  Either way that show was crazy - and Keyshia Cole can be angry all she wants to be - but this crew is a little bit out of her league - Sorry Keysh.

I wish that I would have gotten some new music - or a taste of that new Mrs Carter show coming soon, but I will deal with the 15 minutes that I got.

Shorty-Lo, Take Care of Your Own Damn Kids

Shorty – Lo Take care of your Own Damn Kids


Did you sign the petition? I did. The petition that prevents Oxygen from exposing Shorty-Lo Rapper and sperm donor extrodanaire on a reality show about him, his kids and 10 – yes 10 of his “baby mamas” After tons of pressure, the show was cancelled before it even started and Shorty Lo is not happy about it. As a matter of fact, he is fighting back, launching his own petition arguing that he supports all 10 women financially and emotionally , and there should be a show about a father taking care of all of his kids.

I think he wants that pay check if you ask me. In my opinion, drop another album, don’t further pollute our television air waves with another stereotype of Black America.



You can read more information about it here on Madame Noire

Every Thing that is Wrong With Love and Hip Hop Season 3

I have watched the second episode of Love and Hip Hop, Season 3, and once again I am left with a blank stare. I figured that the first episode was supposed to introduce characters, start a story line, and leave us hanging for the following week. What left me staring blankly is that Tahiry was flipping tables like she didn’t have home training. After the second episode, I was sick to my stomache, this is why:


1. Joe Budden’s split personality – I really feel for Joe, having a drug addiction, however, he is a little scary when he is yelling. Did anyone else see his face distort when he was yelling. He seems like he has so much rage inside of him. Rather than having an excuse (oh I was high) Why not stop hurting the people in your life and check yourself into rehab? One minute he has turned into a monster, the next minute he is a teddy bear, the next minute he is crying. Will the real Joe Budden please stand up?

2. Joe Budden’s fresh faced girlfriend – Kalyin Garcia – cute little thing that she is 12 years younger than Joe –and she has no idea what she has gotten herself into. I wouldn’t sit there and watch a fight between two girls over my man. I can see that whole stand by your man through thick and thin thing, but all of this running back and forth with Tahiry is getting ridiculous. She is clearly just the little lady of the moment.

3. Tahiry – I was done with that girl the first episode after she flipped that table. She clearly still loves Joe, and she needs to really let go of that anger before either she gets locked up, or someone gets hurt.

4. Rich Dollaz unbelievable relationship with Erica Mena – their Rihanna/Chris Brown esque relationship is not cute. They are a Jerry Springer show waiting to happen. How disrespectful can he be smiling and flirting with Tahiry like he is single? I bet Erica exploded after seeing that episode last night. Which brings me to…

5. Erica’s Hiroshima explosions – What is this girl so angry about now? Wasn’t it just last season that she was trying to change and be a better person? What happened?

6. There are too many girls on this show – I don’t know if they are trying to make up for lost talent, or are trying to develop multiple story lines, but the women on this show seem to be everything that is wrong with women today. For instance, why would any woman, in this day in age, with all of the resources that we have with the internet, and other mediums, not have their own way of making their own money? Who depends solely on their man if they are able to do for themselves? (Especially if you aren’t married?) Who would introduce themselves as someone who has worked with or slept with everyone in the music industry? (I blame Superhead)

7. Ms Mona Should be Ashamed of Herself – It is one thing to make a reality show, it is another to let young minority women fight, act a fool, and demean themselves on television for your own personal gain. As the creator of the show, she has the power to help these women, but she doesn’t, she helps herself – and its wrong.

La Novelista's TV Line Up

So the New Year is here, and I am pretty excited about it, I am finally done with school which brings me back to my couch, my Pinot and some awesome television. Now, TV has sucked for a while now, between dumb and demeaning reality shows and sitcoms without substance. I feel much more excited for this season, and am pretty sure that I will have a lot to talk about in the coming months.

Scandal – I am sure that you all will agree with me that this is the reason why we all are glued to our televisions on Thursday Nights, Shondra Rhimes has found a way to keep us wanting more, and Kerry Washington makes us want to revamp our work wardrobe. The story line keeps getting better and it is only the third season.

Catfish – MTV got it together! (I was worried what would come forth after the Jersey Shore Decision) This is a reality show about people who are on these online relationships with people that they have never met. It is based on a documentary about the host of the show that had the same thing happen to him.  The documentary did really well (Watch it, it's great) The funny thing about it, is that people have not been who they say they are, down to lesbians that are in the closet posing as men, people putting up fake profiles on Facebook and so forth. The stories are unbelievable and it never ceases to amaze me how messed up, selfish, and insensitive that people can be. I have a soft spot for the host Nev, because he is awesome, and desperately want to hook him up with a friend of mine. (Call me Nev!)

Black Ink Crew – This reality show comes on VH1 after Love and Hip Hop. It is about a tattoo parlor in Harlem. Who knew that there was so much drama in the tattoo business! I feel like that there are some love triangles involved, I am intrigued! I need some TV drama in my life and I don’t do real housewives of anything so, this will do just fine.

Spartacus – My beloved show is on its last season, and it is bitter sweet. If you already do not watch Spartacus, I suggest before the season premier in the next couple of weeks, that you get really friendly with Netflix and catch up. With the main character Andy Whitfield going to heaven after a short bout with Cancer, the show has still done considerably well in transitioning and keeping the story line going.

Chicago Fire – For all of you Law and Order fans, don’t change the channel after SVU, because Dick Wolf has come up with another great show, no cops this time, but Chicago Fire Department – great show. I hope it lasts longer than Law and Order L.A did. Ladies (and some of you fellas) there is some nice eye candy on that show, and Steve from Sex and The City is on it as well.  It's definitely a show you and the Mister can watch together

Elementary – Lucy Lu has come back home to New York as Watson, and modern day Sherlock’s attention to detail will make you pay more attention. It’s a clever show, but DVR it because Scandal is on at the same time.

The Following – So Kevin Bacon Lettuce and Tomato has returned to television and I am curious as to why. This Sci-Fi / Thriller / make me uncomfortable from the previews will get me to watch at least the series premier – let’s see what happens.

Real House-husbands of Hollywood – Kevin Hart? On Prime Time TV? Making Fun of Real Housewives? Need I say more? Finally something to thank BET for!





There are some shows that I am not sold on yet, and they are as follows:

Deception - I don't know about Megan Good.  I don't really see it for her.  I feel like NBC was looking for another Kerry Washington - esque show, but you can't just find any caramel skinned girl and place her on prime time and hope for a miracle.  I may watch it for Laz Alonzo.

Love and Hip-Hop New York - So I watched the first episode and I am not bigging up the cast A-La Chrissy.  I am not sure who the boss is (Chrissy was clearly it) It seems like it's supposed to be Yandy - I think, I am not sure how I feel about a bunch of girls fighting over Joe Budden, (I think that he causes a lot of unnecessary drama, and he thinks it's funny) I am not sold yet.  Since when did Erica Mena start winning and having sit downs with Olivia?  I am so confused, and I need more explanations. The production does look better though!

I would love to know what you are watching! List your shows below!

Definition of a Day Job

You know the place, the one where when you come in, you spend the first hour on your breakfast, the second chit chatting with either your friend at work or with your B.F.F on the phone, 2 hours shopping, and that is all before lunch. In the course of the day, you maybe get about a solid 15 minutes of work done, and that is a good day. It is the place where your paycheck leaves you “Just OVER Broke”, and you work just enough not to get fired.

It’s not your passion, it’s a paycheck, and mama says that “in this economy, be happy you have a job”. (Don’t you wish that she would just stop telling you that?) Sometimes the hard part is trying to figure out how to make your passion pay more than pennies, and it is tough. Yeah you want to design, but who will buy it? You may want to write, but who will read it? You may want to cook, but who will (pay) to eat it? I know for a fact that these sometimes are the things that will make me “go all in” and drop it all and do what it is that I want to.

The difficult part about being an adult is that as an adult, we still have responsibilities; kids, bills, other responsible grown up obligations. These are my daily struggles, as a grown up, and for just one day, I wish I could go back to my late teens/early twenties, where the only thing that I had to worry about was my Biology homework and my beeper (yes, I said beeper).

I vow one day to get out of the stigma of a day job. I once heard someone say that my generation is that that is the creative one –the one where people are going for their passions instead of what is practical, and trying to find a way to enjoy what they do. I think that we all remember our parents coming home and being overly exhausted and mentally unavailable. I don’t want that for myself, and I am pretty sure my peers don’t either.

I say all of this to say, do what makes you happy, and the money will come with proper planning. I know I am.

Promises not Resolutions

Happy new year!  I am usually not one to make new years resolutions.   I used to, but what happens with new years resolutions is that I, like everyone else tends to break them.  I will say, I am going to go to the gym more (I don't) or I will say that I will eat better (I don't do that either) I made a promise that I would finish school before the year is out - mission accomplished.

I remember when I was a little girl, if I really, really, wanted to do something, and my parents would say maybe, I would say, "You promise I can?"  and most of the time I got to do what I wanted.  Since I know that I would never break a promise to myself, then thats what I would rather do this year, is make promises to myself.  I got really sick at the end of 2012, it was a really painful, uncomfortable ordeal that I had to go through, and I promised myself that in 2013, I would never feel that way again.  Of course that includes taking better care of myself.

I promised myself that I would better cultivate my career this year. Last year, my formal self became very distracted with my day job - not this year it won't.  I believe that promises are so much more powerful than resolutions.  I spent new year's at the Nas Concert, in Radio City.  I enjoyed the music (of course) but Sir Fineness said some things that resonated with me, that life is good, regardless of what is happening with folks around me, my life is still good!

The Webster's dictionary defines promise as "a : a declaration that one will do or refrain from doing something specified b : a legally binding declaration that gives the person to whom it is made a right to expect or to claim the performance or forbearance of a specified act"

On the other hand, a resolution is ": the act or process of resolving: as a : the act of analyzing a complex notion into simpler ones b : the act of answering : solving c : the act of determining"  I don't know about you but I would pay more attention to " a legally binding declaration" than "an act of determining".  In one of my many journals I am going to paste some pictures of "promises"  and I am going to give myself some deadlines.  The most powerful promises are the ones that I keep to myself.  What are your new years promises?